Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Thankfulness. What?

Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Thankfulness?


Hello everyone! As usual I am explaining what this blog is about. I created this blog for the adoptive and foster families out there who are in the middle of issues with their children. Please check out my other posts. They are intended to help lift your spirits during your journey.

My last post was titled, “Holidays and Adoption Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).” It has helpful information for the holidays. Please have a look.

Today I am going to talk about thankfulness. It seems the right time of year to talk about such a subject. I hope it is encouraging to your soul!! But how do we have thankfulness when RAD is involved?



         For the parents out there who are in the thick of fostering, adoption and RAD issues I know it is challenging to think of things to be thankful for. Life with RAD is so difficult! RAD children like to create division in the home and sometimes successfully cause parents to divorce. These children are always punishing the adoptive mother either aggressively or passive aggressively. They live in unending drama. All of this is hard!!

From my past experience I know constantly focusing on the hard things can be devastating to one’s soul. It effect one’s body and puts spiritual connection to the Trinity (Father God, Jesus and Holy Spirit) into question. That is why I am venturing to say thankfulness is a good solution.


A Broadening Perspective:

         I heard a speaker once say something very interesting. She said, “Speaking and thinking positively attracts positivity back towards us.” This goes along with a recent post I wrote about promoting and maintaining a positive atmosphere in our homes. I suggested playing upbeat music to help create this positive atmosphere. I feel worship music is the best. I suggested several other ways to create a positive atmospheres in this post. Please take a moment and read it.

So, if a positive atmosphere causes the positive to come towards us – then it would make sense the opposite would be true too. Our RAD children are very negative and many times this makes the atmosphere negative. My point today is about moving forward in the opposite by regularly practicing thankfulness. Being thankful for everything you can creates positivity in our homes.

Below is a list of positive declarations of thankfulness. Take some time and create your own list. Maybe you and your spouse can develop an atmosphere of positive thankfulness too.


Other Things to be Thankful For:

  • For your marriage
  • For your destiny and future
  • For your health
  • For the beautiful season of fall
  • For your spouse
  • For your job
  • For good friends
  • For a good church
  • For your house and/or car
  • For the ability to breath
  • For having food on your table
  • For the clothes you wear
  • For the ability to think
  • For your furniture and things
  • For the money God provided to you
  • For the ability to verbally encourage those around us
  • For the ability to walk and enjoy nature
  • For the animals around us
  • For a free nation
  • For all the different arrays of color



Creating a positive atmosphere as it depends on you is the goal. Maybe your negative children will catch the atmosphere and join in. You never know. If they don’t – allow yourself to live in the positive world with God and not your child’s negative world.

This is not to say we don’t vent our feelings to God, our spouse or a friend. But when all is out – revert back to thankfulness. There is so much more going on in the world beyond what is happening in our homes. God is big and deserves our gratitude for all He is as well as all He has  done.

Well, that’s all for now. Please leave a comment by clicking the “leave a comment” button by the title above. I would love to hear from you!!! Nice talking with you! Until next week…