Need Foster and Adoption Help? Part Three

What We are About

Intro:

Hope all is well with you! Laurie here with another post to help parents who have children with behavioral, foster or adoption issues. Most of my posts have to do with these subjects. Please take a moment to read some of my other posts.

My last two posts were about the first two parts of the ministry I have started called Abba Father’s Love (AFL). I talked about parental support groups and Life Coaching. Please check them out.

Today I am going to talk about the third part of this ministry called Abba Father’s Love (AFL). There are two other women who minister with me in the AFL ministry. Their names are Wendy and Angie. We have a great time seeing the families heal and be encouraged through what we do.

 

Abba Father’s Love Blog:

The third part to this ministry is this blog. This site is  abbafatherandhislove.wordpress.com  and you have found it. Yeah!!

I have poured my heart out in this blog! When my husband and I adopted we discovered our girls have a disorder called Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and we were dumbfounded. It knocked us on our butts and society didn’t even begin to understand. So, I started this blog to help families who are going through the same things my husband and I went through.

Our adoption agency said if our children were in foster families then they wouldn’t have RAD. They were so wrong!! Both of our girls were in foster families and they both have RAD. RAD can come in different levels ranging from mild to severe. One of our daughters has a pretty severe level of RAD. The other has a difficult level which is more intense then medium but not severe.

I felt so alone and misunderstood by society in general because society doesn’t understand parenting RAD children is nothing like parenting “normal” biological children. Most adopted children come with some level of emotional baggage. A large percentage come with a level of RAD.

It is my heart that the parents who find yourself alone and misunderstood by society have this blog to come to and heal, find community and find help with your children who have behavioral, adoption or foster problems. We want to be the support group, life coaching or blog you run to and find encouragement.

 

Introducing Wendy:

         Since this blog is the subject of this post – I want to take this opportunity to introduce a woman to you. Her name is Wendy (mentioned above). In the near future (of this blog), Wendy will be writing some posts FOR this blog.

Wendy will add so much to this blog because she comes with a wealth of knowledge concerning adoption, fostering and special needs. She has much to say on a large amount of subjects. She will start her posts in the near future.

Wendy has a servant’s heart and many adoptive mothers have solicited her advice. She has adopted several children and has fostered over 70 children in her home. She helps me run the AFL support groups and one of the support groups meets in her home.

 

Abba Father’s Love Ministry Recap:

Three parts to Abba Father’s love ministry:

  • Support Groups
  • Life Coaching
  • This Blog

 

Conclusion:

         If you are a parent of a child with foster, adoption or behavioral problems – please let us help you by joining our support groups, coming in for a life coaching session or reading this blog regularly. We are here and ready to help you along your journey with your children. Maybe you need some healing yourself. We can help you with that too.

Foster and Adopted children can cause some serious wounding to parent’s hearts. We at Abba Father’s Love have all been wounded and healed. We want to help you heal. You can reach me at Laurie@getrealliving.com We can set up a life coaching session for you with Wendy and me.

Please leave comment in the comment box. We would love to connect with you. Have a great week and come again next week. Until then…

Foster and Adoption Help? – Part One

 

What we are about

Intro:

Hi everyone. I created this blog for foster and adoptive families. I feel families who have children with behavioral problems are in this mix also. I have written many posts on different subjects but Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is at the top of the list to talk about in this blog. Please take a moment to read some of my other posts.

My last two posts were about adoptive mothers receiving the protection of their husbands when they are being abused by their adopted RAD children. I talked about the steps I took when my husband decided to be the protector in the home. Check out my last two posts for more information.

Today is the first part of this three part series of posts about the ministry we (Me, Wendy and Angie) have started. The ministry is called Abba Father’s Love and we help foster, and adoptive families plus families with children who have behavioral problems. We love helping families so read further and maybe we can help you.

 

Abba Father’s Love

We have three parts to the Abba Father’s Love Ministry:

  1. Parental Support Groups
  2. Life Coaching
  3. This Blog

(I will write about these three parts of the ministry and follow the order listed above)

 

Abba Father’s Love Support Groups

Support group one:

         I have started two local support groups. In a previous posts I encouraged my readers to go to or start a support group and then I told a little bit about my two groups. Now I will tell some more about them in reference to being part of the Abba Father’s Love ministry.

I have one support group in the morning so I can reach the mothers who don’t work or don’t work in the morning. We usually meet for two hours. Many times we don’t want to leave because of the connection we’ve developed.

We have the best time because we all have children with behavioral problems, adoption and foster problems, or RAD. We laugh and laugh because life at home is hard and we all get it.

The behavior of our children can be ridiculous. We (the mothers) have come to realize we can be vulnerable about our feelings and know everyone understands because we’ve all been there. The comradery is deep and we are there for each other.

 

 

Support Group Two:

This group meets in the evening so the mothers that work during the day can come. The fathers are invited too but they usually stay home so their wives can come. I would love for the fathers to come too!

This group is quite new but I can see the same closeness developing. Again, the mothers are being very real about how they feel and how things are going in their home. We laugh and we cry together because we all understand what the others are going through.

 

Overall thoughts on Support Groups:

The support groups are such wonderful additions to our lives. I am amazed by the wisdom coming out of each mother’s mouth. We all benefit from each person’s portion and everyone learns and heals.

During the meeting I also offer some type of teaching or encouragement. This helps the mother’s refuse their children’s abusiveness and see life at home in a new light. A change in perspective usually makes life’s difficulties seem much smaller than previously experienced.

 

 

Conclusion:

Support groups are one of the three parts we offer in Abba Father’s Love ministry. They help our mothers find a listening ear and a compassionate heart towards the difficulties they are facing.

Maybe in the future I will develop a Facebook Live support group for those who are out of the area. If you are interested in such support group please tell me in the comment box. I can look onto how to set up a Facebook Live group.

This is all for today. Be blessed and have a good week. Until next week…