Ungodly Soul Ties Effect Your RAD Child and Extended Family

Ungodly Soul Ties and Extended Family



In the last few posts I talked about the Trinity Window and the effects of wounding to your  body, soul and spirit. When the people in your life who were responsible for taking care of your soul needs didn’t properly do so, your soul becomes wounded. (Check out my last five posts)

To lay the foundation for the next several posts, I’m sharing some healing tools for you to learn and implement. I have already shared about “seeing in the spirit” (a practice that works in conjunction with the Trinity Window mentioned in the above paragraph). The Trinity Window (shown in the last several posts) includes breaking agreement with the lies you believe about yourself and receiving the truth from Father God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. When they affirm us, it heals our wounded soul.


The Next Tool = Ungodly Soul Ties:

 Today, I’m going to delve into the next tool of healing which is “Breaking an Ungodly Soul Ties.” You can identify a soul tie when your ability to think and make decisions on your own is impaired. Have you ever heard voices of your mother, father, sister, brother or other significant individuals in your head when trying to think for yourself?


Two Types of Soul Ties:

1)     The first type can be recognized as a repetitive voice intentionally ingraining something into you as a child. I’m not saying the someone’s opinion is bad, but you are now an adult and should be able to make decisions that will be good for you and your family without the interference of this voice. This is an ungodly soul tie.

The goal in parenting is to teach our children to navigate life with the skills taught by the parents. BUT, there is a difference between teaching and controlling children. Teaching involves coming along side for the sake of support, encouragement and training with a heart for the CHILD to succeed. Children learn the best in a supportive, not controlling, environment. Controlling is when a person can’t see any other way of doing things except for their own. Many parents need to “look good” through the lives of their children. So if the child looks good – the parent looks good. Wow! This puts the parent in a place of living vicariously through their children. That may be good for the controlling parent but not necessarily for the child. It puts undue pressure on the child to perform perfectly, or at least what the parent deems as perfect. Most of the time it is just rigidity and rules.

When a parent is still controlling their child after they leave the home and are out on their own – this is a problem. They need to look at the motive behind their need to parent past their allotted time. Granted we are always parents, but by the time our children are adults  we’re past our chance to teach them all the things we know. What’s the motive to continue? Are the accolades really that important? Do we as parents feel unfulfilled in life? Maybe we need to consider what may have been imparted to us through our own parents.

A parent/someone that has controlled you can become the voice in your head which interferes when you need to make a decision now. If this is true, you have an ungodly soul tie to the controlling person. Scripture says we are to honor and obey our fathers and mothers. This is true! Our parents will always be our parents and they should get the honor and respect due them. But when we become adults and should be making decisions on behalf of our own family, we need to be free to think independently or along with our spouse to make decisions which will be good for our own children.

Don’t get me wrong – in the mind of the controlling person – they probably believe they meant well. But if you are frozen in their rigid way of thinking, you are not doing yourself or your children any favors. You need to have the full realm of possibilities that an independent thinker is afforded.

2)      The second cause for an ungodly soul tie occurs when a person is placed in the incorrect position in our hearts. Correct alignment is key. When we were little, our parents and family should be in a very high place in our hearts. As we grow older we need to place God at the very top slot on our hearts. We are in the second slot where we receive, unhindered, the love of the Trinity. This, in turn, develops our ability to love anyone else correctly. Then if we are married, our spouse comes next, followed by our children, then extended family, etc. If the slots in our hearts are in proper alignment, then we are able to think along with God in our decision making.

If we suffer from the controlling voice in our head, it is a very good clue that we have an ungodly soul tie with them and may need to be put in a different slot in our hearts. Maybe it is someone that we have adored and put on a pedestal. Maybe it is someone we craved attention or acceptance from but could never please.

If the controlling voice in your head is in any of the top three slots of your heart, there is an ungodly soul tie that is superseding the voices that should have priority in our decision making processes. This is where the trinity  can help. Realigning who gets what slot in your heart needs some tweaking and priority is given to God first.


Your Ungodly Soul Ties:

 Do you have your father, mother or an idolized someone talking in your head when you try to make a decision? Who is it and do you want to be rid of it? Do you feel guilty when you make a decision that is different than you were taught to think? Does your spouse get frustrated with you because you can’t think along with them to decide what to do with your children?

Do you see yourself as the controlling parent and are you creating ungodly soul ties with your own children? Are you living vicariously through your children or are you helping them to think and be who God has called them to be?  Is it ok if your children have an opinion that is different than yours or does everything have to go your way? Granted they are under your care and need to be taught and trained, but are you doing the things you do for you or for them? Does God get His say and way?

 In my next blog I will talk about the steps you can take to get rid of your ungodly soul tie(s) to whomever is still talking in your head. Then we will discuss if you have an ungodly soul tie with your adopted RAD child.

 Please leave your comments in the comment box. I would love to discuss with you on any issue I have written about or concerns you. Till next time….