Life Coaching – When a DID Heart is Healed

Life Coaching a Healed Heart:



Hi everyone. I am Laurie – the creator of this blog. I write to the parents of foster and adopted children. It is my desire to talk about subjects that my husband and I weren’t educated about when we were in the adoption process. Now, I want other foster and adoptive families to understand these topics too.

My last post was about the broken heart of an adult adopted RAD person. It is my delight to help them heal! Take a moment and read my last post.

Today I am going to talk about life coaching the healed heart. When I say healed heart I am talking about when a DID heart is put back together again. DID means Dissociative Identity Disorder. Please read my other posts on DID so this post will make sense.


Healed DID Life Coaching:

        I have found a healed DID heart needs Life Coaching including instruction about living with their whole heart. If a DID client’s heart is healed and they can stay present all the time, they will notice they are much quieter inside. Sometimes, this can be unnerving if they have lived broken for a long time. They need to learn to live without all the inside voices talking to them (how they have lived up to this point).

Also, living whole and in the present will be strange to them because they will experience life from a whole new perspective. This takes some getting used to especially when they experience emotions they have shut down until now. This can be uncomfortable.


Life Coaching:

        At the Unleashed Healing Center where I’m a Life Coach and where my ministry Abba Father’s Love is located – I specialize in helping adoptive and foster families. Many adoptive families are broken because of a disorder called Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I have also had many clients who are adopted and have DID.

At the Unleashed Healing Center and Abba Father’s Love we have several levels of ministry and one of the levels is Life Coaching. This Level includes helping the client take steps towards desired life shift and change. When a DID client’s heart is healed, they need to learn to live life differently as a whole and healed person. This is awkward but necessary for full healing in the client.

Living with a whole heart is rewarding to the client and I would be lying if I didn’t say it was rewarding to me too. I love when the people I am Life Coaching are receiving the freedom they desire. I praise God because it is His love and tenderness that touches the client – causing the healing and wholeness.



The goal is for the client to be able to be quieter and at peace inside. When faced with different situations, their heart is to function as one full un-shattered heart. When they can learn to live life with a whole heart then their full personality (the core personality) can be in charge. This core personality is the personality who can live out the destiny God has for them to live. There is no better way of living life than to live in destiny!!



        I would love to have a conversation on this subject if you would like to leave a comment. If you feel like your heart or your child’s heart is broken and want my help then I can be reaches at Please call and set up a session with me.

I’ll be here again next week. Blessings to you. Until next time…



The Broken Heart of an Adult Who Was Adopted and Has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD:

The Broken Heart of an RAD Adopted Adult:



        I’m Laurie and the creator of this blog. I write on many subjects having to do with foster and adoption issues. Please check some out.

My last post was on the subject of adoptive children having healthy spirits. It is a subject for every person because we all need healthy spirits. Take a look.

Today I am going to talk about the adult adopted RAD heart and what we at Abba Father’s Love have been experiencing. I am honored to participate in what is happening in our client’s hearts. God’s amazing healing power is priceless!


Life Lessons:

        Wendy and I are in the process of taking an adult adopted RAD person through the process of healing his broken heart. It is amazing how life teaches some life lessons by the time someone reaches their thirties. Life can bring reality into the picture. When they are younger and have RAD – they only see life from a distorted, immature, and narcissistic point of view.

When an adopted RAD child reaches their late twenties or thirties they seem to break out of their delusions about life and about their biological families. By then life lessons have taught them some very valuable experiences. They finally can admit to their participation in the mix and this is a very good shift. They can even see the adoptive family wasn’t so bad.


Ministering to the Broken Heart of an Adult RAD Adopted Person:

        Sessions are somewhat easier with an adopted RAD adult client. They come in ready to work on their stuff because deep down inside they are still searching for bonding to happen with someone in order to feel connected and loved. They begin to realize what they believed all along wasn’t the truth.

The habits of adopted RAD adults are strong because they have lived them for so long. But if they are seeking help – their perspective has shifted as a result of trying and failing at healing themselves. This gloriously allows them to accept our input and techniques of healing.

Wendy and I are working with an adult adopted RAD person now and are excited with the changes we are seeing. This person is a delight to work with and is putting every ounce of effort he can into the process. His boss asked what happened to him that has made such a difference after only two sessions with us. We’re so pleased! It is such a pleasure to see the behaviors of the client change as healing transforms their thoughts.



What We Do:

We have found techniques that minister to:

  1. The adopted child’s broken heart.
  2. Biological hindrances
  3. Lies and vows which keep them trapped
  4. Practical steps to live differently
  5. Healing the brain
  6. Making a life plan


We Would Love to Help You!

        If you are an adult with RAD or are the parent of an adopted RAD child – we would love to help you. I am Laurie and I can be reached at Please contact me and we’ll talk about the best process which will help you.

Adoptive parents – we can answer any questions you may have. If you want to bring your adopted RAD child in for a session we can help you with that too. Wendy and I will take them through the process of healing their broken heart.

Hope you have a great week. I will be here again with another post next week or the week after. Until then…

Can Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)Children Have a Healthy Spirit?

Children Who Have a Healthy Spirit?



Hello there! It is my desire to encourage parents of foster and adopted children. I also want to encourage parents with children who have behavioral problems. Please take a moment to check out some of my other posts. You may find the information helpful.

My last post was about why RAD adopted children make their situations a win-lose “way of life.” You’ll have to read it to understand what I mean. This “way of life” isn’t beneficial to them or anyone else. Please check it out.

Today I want to talk about an adopted child’s spirit. This is really about anybody’s spirit. I am going to discuss how a person’s body, soul and spirit are to line up.



The correct alignment of a person’s body, soul and spirit is very important. When the Bible says we are to be Spirit lead – it is in reference to the Holy Spirit leading us. But all humans have a body, soul and a spirit. The body, of course, is our physical body. Our soul is the part of us that can sin and the spirit of a human is the part that can readily connect to the Trinity.

Our spirit is to obey the Holy Spirit. Our soul is to obey our spirit and the Holy Spirit. Our body is to obey our soul who is obeying our spirit who is obeying the Holy Spirit. This is the correct alignment and the fastest way to  be led by the Holy Spirit


What Happens?

When a person accepts Jesus into their heart then the Holy Spirit is introduced to them. In the Bible the dove appeared from heaven when Jesus was baptized and that dove represents the Holy Spirit. Jesus then becomes the Lord of the person’s life and the scriptures say the Holy Spirit comes as the helper, nurturer and teacher.

The role of the Holy Spirit is so pertinent at this point because each of us have so much to learn. One of the most important things to learn is to be led by the Holy Spirit. The soul doesn’t usually like this because it has been in charge up to this point. Not only does the soul need to step out of being in charge it has to take two steps down and be under the obedience of both the Holy Spirit and the person’s spirit. Our souls are used to getting their own way. This is why purposeful realignment is necessary and important.


How do we align?

This is how I align. I call my spirit to attention and instruct it to come into submission to the Holy Spirit. I put Holy Spirit in charge of teaching and training me. I surrender my day and time to the Holy Spirit. I tell my soul it needs to obey the Holy Spirit and my spirit. My body needs to do the same.

When we receive any information through our five senses (taste, touch, hearing, smelling and seeing) we can ask the Holy Spirit to filter it and send it through our spirit to our soul. We are created to experience life this way because it is how Adam and Eve experienced life before the fall. This gives us the ability to think along with God. Although as humans, we have a limited thinking ability because we are not God.


What about our Adopted Children?

        They can learn this too. The difficulty is they like living out of their souls as does everyone else. But you can pray for them to desire to be led by the Holy Spirit. You could call their spirit to attention to be in the lead when you have your prayer time for them. This does have a powerful effect because as their parent you are implementing something that will help them live a safe and nurturing life.



        Please leave a comment about this post if you have any thoughts or questions. I would love to further the conversation about this subject. I’ll be here again next week. Until then…