RAD is a Simple Twist of Fate?

RAD is a Simple Twist of Fate?

(RAD= Reactive Attachment Disorder):



        Hello again. I can’t believe another week has passed. I’m Laurie and I want this post to encourage adoptive and foster families. I want to help these families heal.

My last post was about knowing who you are when your Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) children charm and engage others against you through lying. This is so difficult to navigate through. Please check out my last post.

Today I am going to talk about a simple twist of fate as it applies in a couple ways to RAD. I am a firm believer that fate has a much deeper meaning than most people believe. I believe fate is a precursor to destiny.


What Does Fate Have To Do With RAD?

If you are an adoptive parent you probably already know you have the children you were supposed to have. Maybe you don’t know this. Maybe things are very difficult right now and you are wondering if you have what your adopted children need to make it to their adulthood? Either way is fate involved?

I am a believer in Psalm 139:13-16 “For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. My bones were not hidden from you when I was made in secret, when I was formed in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw me when I was formless; all my days were written in Your book and planned before a single one of them began.”

I know when my husband and I were going through the toughest time with our two adopted children – I questioned why we adopted. I asked myself if I had what they needed to help them mature into adults. I completely understand when adoptive parents begin to question their parental abilities. It takes so much more inner strength to parent an adopted RAD child compared to parenting a biological child to adulthood. I can say this because we parented both.

According to the scripture in the above paragraph God already planned for you to adopt and have the children you have – along with all the challenges. It is all written in His book about your life (see scripture above). So, with that out of the way then the questions to pose to yourself or to God would be:

  1. What was the purpose of adopting these particular children?
  2. How does this connect to my destiny?”


I’m Glad You Asked: (lol)

        Sometimes we forget who is really in charge. That would be God. God gives us problems we are to figure out. When we get in difficult situations in our life it is always to learn about ourselves, others and God. Our difficulties cause us to search out the solution. Then we can help others with the same problem.

Through figuring all this out – we get the honor of fulfilling our book and therefore our destiny. I believe when we accomplish our book (destiny) we live the fullest most satisfying life we can possibly have. God plans our books according to what our own personal desires would be delighted to fulfill.

Hopefully our children will someday discover the same fate about their book (destiny). In the meanwhile – we as their parents need to grasp onto this concept so we are not so frustrated in the middle of our situations. Our fate is the destiny of our book.



I understand this is a point of view you probably have never considered but I urge you to reconsider. What about your situation? Can you learn from and help the next person? Please take some time to think it out.

If you need help about the concept of this post I would love to help. Just leave a comment in the comment section. Thanks!

See you here again next week. God bless! Until next time…

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Trackback: Making It a Win-Win with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) | Abba Father's Love
  2. Trackback: Authority to Maintain a Protective Cover for Our Adopted Children: | Abba Father's Love

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