Can There Be Peace With Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Children?

Can There Be Any Peace with RAD Children?



Hello everyone. I am the creator of this blog and my name is Laurie. I love encouraging parents who have children with behavioral, foster and adopted children. You’ll find many of my posts are on these topics.

My last post was on the subject of adoptive fathers and adoption support groups. It is interesting how men chose to get out of meetings. So, if that is happening with you and your husband, please take a moment to read my last post.

Today I am going to talk on the subject of peace in the home when there are children with behavioral, foster, adoption or RAD issues. Peace can be hard to find in these situations. So, what can we do about it?


Children Who Live Outside Of Peace:

        The children with these issues are never peaceful inside. They also seem to take it upon themselves to make sure the whole house is in chaos. If there isn’t chaos in the home then they create it in order to make the atmosphere outside their bodies in as much of a jumble as their insides.

In doing this they cause everyone who live with them to feel chaos too. I’m sure there are times when adoptive mothers feel a sense of relief when their children start back to school after a long summer of constant chaos. I don’t blame you and encourage you to not feel guilty for having these feelings. I’m pretty sure every mother with children who have behavioral and adoption RAD problems feel the same way.

With that all said, let’s unpack some things. Do we have to live outside of peace when we are parenting these children? Is peace attainable? If it is -how do we get it?


How Do We Find Peace?

        If you have read any of my posts I’m sure you see that I am a Christian and approach things from a Christian vantage point. Also, this is my post and I am allowed to say what I want to say from the point of freedom of speech. So, here is my take on peace and living with these challenging children.

If you have a child who has behavioral or RAD behaviors then I’m sure you understand that peace isn’t part of their being because of the trauma, pain and rejection they have experienced. So, expecting them to be peaceful without their hearts being healed is not a reasonable expectation. They want chaos because it feels familiar to them.

If these children are set on chaos then it will be in the atmosphere of the home. They do all they can to stir everyone up. Then the only time the atmosphere of the home may feel peaceful is when they go to bed at night.

So, what is left that can be peaceful? Well, the answer to that is your inner being. The way I found any constant peace was inside myself. I found it with the help of spending time praying, meditating and getting to know the Trinity. The Trinity is Father God, Jesus (Father God’s Son) and the Holy Spirit which the Holy Bible teaches about.

When I spend time with them they help me know who I am, who they are and who they are for me. It puts everything into perspective and alignment. I am then peaceful inside instead of the chaos around me dominating who I am and robbing me of peace.

While developing my inner peace I journaled about everything and got to know who I was and what I was going to allow into the space inside me where peace and the Jesus reside. This peace can be found by anyone if they decide to let the Trinity into their lives and accept Jesus into their heart.



        If you want to let the Trinity into your life – I would love to help you with this. Please leave a comment in the comment section of this post. I would love to help.

Enough for today. I will be back again next week. Until then…

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  1. Trackback: Knowing Who You Are When Your Adopted Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) Children Lie to Manipulate Others Against You: | Abba Father's Love

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