See Past Your Child’s RAD to their Gift – Part 1

Seeing Past Your Child’s Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) to Their DNA Gifting – Part One:


        Hello everyone! I am Laurie and I love to help families who are broken as a result of RAD symptoms from their adopted children. I didn’t have a clue when RAD invaded our family, but now I write this blog to help other families who are going through the shattering results of RAD. Please check out my other posts and you will understand what I mean.

My last post was about being a martyr vs. being a parent. It’s true, as parents we give unconditionally to our children but were not to do it in martyr mode. Please take a moment to read my last post.

Today I am going to write the first part of a three part series of posts. I want to lay the foundation in this first post. Then I will expand on the gifts listed in Rom. 12:6-8 to develop an understanding of the type of gifting (or personality) your child might have hidden behind their RAD.


Rom. 12:6-8:

Rom. 12:6-8 – “We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.


There are seven gifts (personalities) in the verse above:

  1. Prophet
  2. Servant
  3. Teacher
  4. Encourager/Exhorter
  5. Giver
  6. Leader/Ruler
  7. Mercy


Each gifting, as I see it, is a personality type which has strengths and weaknesses. They all have different ways of looking at life. I am going to go through each gift (personality) and give the highlights. Most of the information for all three posts (in this series of posts) are taken from the Elizabeth and Sylvia Gunther “Free to be me” gift test booklet.

I understand RAD is magnified in our adopted children. But finding our child’s personality beyond the symptoms of RAD is necessary. Their personality helps them fit into what God created them to do on this planet.

I will go through the list above in numerical order and describe the gift (personality type). Hopefully the descriptions will help you recognize some personality traits your child has even if their RAD is raging. I will start my descriptions in this post and finish in the next two posts with a concludion at the end.


Prophet – Strengths, Weaknesses and Blindspots:

  1. Sees the patterns in life and often knows when they see something happening again like it has happened before
  2. Sees all situations in black or white. There is no middle ground. This can be a strength or a weakness depending on the situation
  3. Sees the big picture but not the process of steps to get there
  4. Can make a decision within ten seconds
  5. Faith comes easily
  6. Wants to know what is on Father God’s heart
  7. Wants to know what is over the next hill of life and where we’re going
  8. Likes to get projects off their plate – even doing an all-nighter in order to do it.
  9. Is independent in many ways
  10. Gains strength from alone time
  11. Likes to be in God’s presence
  12. Is a visionary with many ideas
  13. Is a natural born leader
  14. Is opinionated
  15. Hates maintaining the status quo
  16. Is intense and has the largest range of emotions


  1. If not careful, they can damage relationships. They need to overlook others failures and weaknesses which can lead them into un-forgiveness and bitterness.
  2. Words and actions are stronger than they intend
  3. Passion and drive can turn into criticism, judgement and ingratitude



        Next week I will post part two to this three part series of posts. I will share on the servant, teacher and exhorter. Please come back in order to discover your child’s gift (personality).

I would love to help so please leave a comment in the comment box. Ill be back here next week. Until then…

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