Adoption RAD and Five Steps of Encouragement – Part Three:

Adoption RAD and Five Steps of Encouragement:


Hello there. Laurie here to talk about adoption and RAD issues. It’s what this blog is about so check out my previous posts. I’m sure they will be helpful if you are searching for answers in this area.

My last two posts were the first two posts of this five part series about encouragement. I am using the acronym of FAITH to make my points. Please check them out for some encouragement.

Today is the third step of encouragement. I am using the I in the acronym of FAITH. This subject is near and dear to my heart so please read further.


I for Injustice:

There is so much injustice in adoption situations. Here is a list of injustices which frustrate me to the core:

  1. An adopted child didn’t sign up for the pain of rejection and abandonment when their mother and father didn’t keep them. Even if the family had to give them up for a good reason – an adopted child usually never feels like they belong. Ugh! So unjust!!
  2. When a couple can’t have children and they get a child with RAD. Then this child presents emotionally destructive behavior wounding the adoptive parents. Wow! That goes deep!!
  3. When adoptive parents do everything they know to do for their adoptive RAD child – to no avail. It doesn’t work because the adopted child refuses love or help from anyone. This really sucks! I can attest to this because it happened to my husband and I with our two girls. Double whammy!!


Justice is very important to me! I have the personality that needs to see the good win over the bad. I also don’t give up easily – this can be good or bad depending on the situation.


Three Scriptures about God’s Justice for orphans:

1)  I am reminded of a post I wrote a while ago called the Orphans Psalm. It was about Psalm 10 and describes the actions of an orphan. In this Psalm the orphan is very rebellious – yet at the end of the chapter Father God expresses His desire for the orphan to NOT live in terror… What a good and kind God!

2)  I also want to point out the scripture in Prov. 23:10 where God stands up for the fatherless saying their defender is strong on their behalf and will take up their cause. God is the orphan’s defender.

3)  It says in Prov. 31: 8-9 – Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves and for the rights of all who are destitute. We are to speak up and judge fairly; defending the rights of the poor and needy… Orphans are definitely poor and needy!


God’s Justice of Parents:

1)  God said in his commandments for children to obey their parents. God always has our backs and He wants us to treat our children with justice and honor in return.

2)  It says in Prov. 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it… Again, God is with us and backs us as parents.


My Point:


God believes in family, parents and children. God invented justice because it is part of His character and desires for justice to prevail. This includes you and your difficult adopted RAD child. We don’t parent out of punishment or control. Instead we are to bring justice for all in the family. Children are to obey their parents for their lives to go well.

We need to decide to partner with God for this to happen. If you are reading this post – you’re probably looking for answers to some difficult situations. Your RAD adopted child is probably out of control and rejecting you on all levels.

I encourage you to surrender to God. Give Him your life, children and situations. He is the only one who can get through to your little one. He brings JUSTICE for all concerned because He invented Justice.



If you have a comment please leave it in the box below. See you next week for the fourth part to this five part series. Until then…


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