The RAD Orphan Psalm – Part Three

The RAD Orphan Psalm             


My intention for this blog is to encourage the foster and adoptive families out there who are finding the symptoms of RAD challenging. RAD is a disorder called Reactive Attachment Disorder in which the adoptive child has made a vow to not attach to anyone so they won’t be emotionally hurt. This vow is due to the child missing their birth mother, feeling the depths of her rejection and deciding no one else is permitted close enough to hurt them ever again.


This Series of Three Posts:

  1. My first post of this series I called “The RAD orphan psalm – part one.” It was about Psalm 10 and I gave points and thoughts about the Psalm.
  2. In the second part of this series – I connected the symptoms of RAD to the verses of Psalm 10 for an enlightening understanding of the RAD orphan’s heart. Please take a moment and read through parts one and two so this post will make sense.
  3. Today I will express what I feel Father God’s perspective towards the RAD orphan is even though the orphan (in this Psalm 10) is standing in arrogance and rebellious defiance against God and others. The RAD orphan seems to have their fist in God’s face. (Please read Psalm 10 printed below)


Psalm 10:

(There are several adjectives used in this Psalm which I wouldn’t use to describe an orphan but this Psalm is about a fatherless person which means orphan. As I said in part one of this series – the verbiage in this Psalm is symbolic, picturesque and sometimes graphic)


Why, Lord, do you stand far off?     Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?

In his arrogance the wicked man hunts down the weak,     who are caught in the schemes he devises. He boasts about the cravings of his heart;     he blesses the greedy and reviles the Lord. In his pride the wicked man does not seek him;     in all his thoughts there is no room for God. His ways are always prosperous;     your laws are rejected by him;     he sneers at all his enemies. He says to himself, “Nothing will ever shake me.”     He swears, “No one will ever do me harm.”

His mouth is full of lies and threats;     trouble and evil are under his tongue. He lies in wait near the villages;     from ambush he murders the innocent. His eyes watch in secret for his victims;     like a lion in cover he lies in wait. He lies in wait to catch the helpless;     he catches the helpless and drags them off in his net. 10 His victims are crushed, they collapse;     they fall under his strength. 11 He says to himself, “God will never notice;     he covers his face and never sees.”

12 Arise, Lord! Lift up your hand, O God.     Do not forget the helpless. 13 Why does the wicked man revile God?     Why does he say to himself,     “He won’t call me to account”? 14 But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;     you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you;     you are the helper of the fatherless. 15 Break the arm of the wicked man;     call the evildoer to account for his wickedness     that would not otherwise be found out.

16 The Lord is King for ever and ever;     the nations will perish from his land. 17 You, Lord, hear the desire of the afflicted;     you encourage them, and you listen to their cry, 18 defending the fatherless and the oppressed,     so that mere earthly mortals     will never again strike terror.


The Adoptive Parents Heart:

          After reading this Psalm I can see verses 12-15 as an adoptive parent’s heart cry. It is the cry of my heart for God to do something in the hearts of my two adoptive children! I understand it seems cruel to ask Father God to “break the arm of the wicked (orphan).” In my mind – it parallels my heart when I came to the end of what I could do and asked God to do whatever it would take to get my girl’s to heal.

Before this series of posts I wrote a series of posts called, “Who Provides for, Owns and Stewards a RAD Adoptive Child.” (Please check it) God is our provider and He owns everything including us and our children. We are merely stewards of parenting our children which puts all the stress of how our children turn out on God. He will give us direction, wisdom and strategy to help our adopted children and we just need to obey.

We the parents need to stop enabling our children by preventing them from experiencing life lessons, learning from pain, and feeling the effects of consequences. When we prevent – we get in God’s way. Getting in God’s way prevents the very thing we want to happen.

We learned from life through life lessons, pain and consequences’ – so why are we preventing our children from learning in the same way? Pain goes very deep into our soul and we need to allow God access to the deep parts of our children’s soul also. The purpose is to let God save, heal and deliver our children. He has for me and he will for you and your child. (In Isaiah 61:2 – the words heal the brokenhearted means to save, heal and deliver)

God never said life would be perfect or without pain. He did say He would save, heal and deliver us so the missing component is God’s love and participation in the healing process. He wants to use every opportunity to show all the facets of His kind and loving personality and He uses life situations to navigate. We then have a whole life time to allow God to save, heal and deliver all of us.


Father God’s Heart:

          Verses 16-18 reveal the heart of Father God. He is King, hears the desire of the afflicted, encourages them and listens to their cry. He defends the fatherless (orphan) and oppressed and doesn’t want them to live in terror.

As I said above – God saves, heals and delivers. The whole chapter of Isaiah 61 is about Jesus and what dying on the cross provided for us and for our children. A broken heart is the RAD adopted child’s dilemma. Let Father God, Jesus and Holy Spirit save heal and deliver them. Turn them over to the arms of a powerful God, loving Savior and a comforting Holy Spirit.



          Well, that’s all for today. Please comment in the box below. I would love to hear from you. If you would like some life coaching I am a life coach. Contact me at   We’ll set up a session. Till next week…


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