The RAD Orphan Psalm – Part One:

RAD Orphan Psalm:

 Intro:

        Hello all. This blog is for all of the families out there feeling frustrated and confused about RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) symptoms in your foster or adopted child. Please read my previous posts on the subject of RAD. I have written several. They will help you understand RAD and where I’m going with this series of posts.

 I just finished a three part series titled “Who Provides for, Own and Stewards a RAD Adopted Child?” Please take some time to check them out. It will help lighten your “life load” considerably.

Today I am going to talk about Psalms 10 from the bible. It is what I call the “RAD Orphans Psalm” and is part one of this three part series of posts. In this post I will discuss some points and thoughts in order to bring understanding to parts two and three. I will break this Psalm down into portions in part two and relate the verses to the symptoms of RAD. Part three will be the conclusion – emphasizing Father God’s beautiful heart towards orphans.

 

Three Points:

  1. This passage seems to have a narrator who is describing what an orphan is doing. In conclusion the narrator describes the Father God’s actions even after the orphan reviles against Him. The middle of this Psalm (verses 12-15) seems to describe the parent’s heart cry for the main character or orphan of the Psalm.
  2. This passage uses the word wicked (amongst other words) to describe the orphan or main character of the Psalm and that bothers me. But I didn’t write the Psalm and at the end of the passage the word fatherless (orphan) describes the main character.
  3. Each section of this Psalm describes what the orphan does. Many of the descriptions align with the symptoms of RAD. RAD means Reactive Attachment Disorder.

 

Thoughts: 

  • As you read through the progression of this passage in scripture – I’m sure you will see a resemblance describing what an orphaned child decides in their heart. Please compare it with what you see in your RAD adopted child’s actions or symptoms.
  • We must remember the more graphic verbiage displayed in this Psalm are symbolic in nature and aren’t literal acts of behavior. For example: It says in verse 9, “He lies in wait like a lion.” This verse is merely painting a visual picture. The orphan obviously isn’t a lion.
  •  The other concept I want to bring to your attention is the orphan’s decision to blame Father God for everything when God’s heart is the opposite of the condemnation coming against Him. God’s intention is for family and keeping the fatherless from terror.
  • My definition for an orphan is someone who feels like they are on the outside looking in on everyone else. They feel rejected, excluded and abandoned by God and others. They are steeped in self-pity because, in their minds, everyone seems to have what they want and won’t ever get. They feel they are being cheated on all fronts and no one cares or will “call them into account.” (Verse 13)
  • This Psalm starts out with the very action of an orphan when it says, “Why, Lord do you stand far off?” as if it is God who has orphaned them. In verse 11 the orphan says, God will never notice; he covers his face and never sees.” It was God’s idea first to invent adoption by adopting us into His family. Orphans have such a twisted view on reality.

 

Psalm 10:

 Why, Lord, do you stand far off?     Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?

In his arrogance the wicked man hunts down the weak, who are caught in the schemes he devises. He boasts about the cravings of his heart; he blesses the greedy and reviles the Lord. In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. His ways are always prosperous; your laws are rejected by him; he sneers at all his enemies. He says to himself, “Nothing will ever shake me.” He swears, “No one will ever do me harm.”

His mouth is full of lies and threats; trouble and evil are under his tongue. He lies in wait near the villages; from ambush he murders the innocent. His eyes watch in secret for his victims; like a lion in cover he lies in wait. He lies in wait to catch the helpless; he catches the helpless and drags them off in his net. 10 His victims are crushed, they collapse; they fall under his strength. 11 He says to himself, “God will never notice; he covers his face and never sees.”

12 Arise, Lord! Lift up your hand, O God. Do not forget the helpless. 13 Why does the wicked man revile God? Why does he say to himself, “He won’t call me to account”? 14 But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you;  you are the helper of the fatherless. 15 Break the arm of the wicked man; call the evildoer to account for his wickedness that would not otherwise be found out.

16 The Lord is King for ever and ever; the nations will perish from his land. 17 You, Lord, hear the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry, 18 defending the fatherless and the oppressed, so that mere earthly mortals will never again strike terror.

 

 Conclusion:

        To me – I can see many of the symptoms of RAD in this passage. (I will expound on RAD symptoms in my next post) RAD orphans are often steeped in self-pity, revenge, and rage. Understandably so when it comes to being without their blood family. They want someone to pay for what has happened to them and are shaking their fist at everyone – including God. They hold a vow in their heart to reject everyone on the planet before anyone rejects them first. Their deception of reality is huge.

I will continue to build on what we are discussing in my next post. Please join me again next week. Please leave a comment pertaining to this post in the box below. Until next time…

 

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