Why is the RAD Adopted Child Attracted to Witchcraft?

Attraction to Witchcraft

 Intro:

 It is my heart’s desire to help the adoptive and foster families with RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) children. That is what this blog is about. My aim is to talk about different topics pertaining to life as an adoptive/foster parent. I hope to make a connection to those of you out there who have adopted RAD children – who find yourselves navigating through adoption life with difficulty.

My last post was titled “Self Help for the Parent of the RAD Child.” I gave resources that will help the adoptive/foster parent heal their soul and encourage their spirit. The adopted child needs a healthy parent to depend on so they can find their healing.

Today I am going to discuss the attraction some adopted children have to witchcraft. I understand we are living in an age where there is a craving for the paranormal. But some of the reasoning and desire is different for the RAD adopted child. Please understand many children who have been wounded or traumatized by life – look to witchcraft as a means of protection and power. Trauma, rejection, and abandonment cause many emotional adverse effects to the recipient. But for the sake of this post – I am going to zero in on why the RAD adopted child specifically is attracted to witchcraft.

 

The Vow:

 In past posts I have talked about the vow the adopted RAD child makes: Their birth mom has given them away – and even as a little infant – they decide that the pain is too much to bear again. So, they vow to not allow any one near their hearts to love them. No one is allowed into their emotions to make a relational connection. They spend their life desiring love but expend tremendous amounts of energy holding everyone at arms length to prevent getting wounded again. They reject everyone on the planet because they don’t want to relive the pain their birth mother caused.

 

The Motivation Behind the Witchcraft:

 Even though the RAD adopted child has good reasons for the vow they hold – it obviously doesn’t produce a healthy perspective on life or promote living in loving and life giving relationships. So, they continue living life alone on the inside – even though they may be surrounded by love ones who care. This is so sad!!

The RAD adopted child then becomes self-absorbed, a-moral (deciding their own rules, morals, and kingdom), and often times narcissistic. The “root of fear” produced by the initial experience with their birth mother’s rejection, abandonment, and wounding – causes them to depend on themselves ONLY to get their needs met. They decide they are the only one strong enough to make themselves safe.

 

Power and Witchcraft:

 As the RAD adopted child grows up they still have this root of fear and vow influencing everything they do. They learn to use their “power of influence” to meet their needs and get what they want. This counteracts the fear and narcissism starts to develop. They live in their own little world – developing their ability to control. They charm, manipulate, influence and revolve around themselves. The more they do this the more powerful they think they’re becoming.

To the RAD adopted child – power and strength means safety so it is no wonder they become attracted to witchcraft. It is their means to an end to get their needs met, and to feel less fearful by growing more powerful. This produces their own safety. They grow to like the power and strength they “think” is manipulating others’ lives by performing witchcraft rituals and incantations, etc.

 

Conclusion:

 The sad thing about this: If they permitted their souls to be healed of their vow – they wouldn’t have to live life alone. They wouldn’t have to meet their own needs and would let others in to love and protected them. Witchcraft meets their need to feel safe, strong and in charge. It makes them feel powerful…I have to be very honest here – this vow has got to go!!

 

Please leave a comment in the box below. I would love to hear from you. Till next time…

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